“You Don’t Understand…”

“You don’t understand”
“Wait til you have kids”
“It’s something only a mother can know”

I loathe these statements. Maybe it is true. I guess I wouldn’t know. What I do know is that those statements cut me like a knife. I feel that even though I do not have children of my own, I have spent plenty of time around them, caring for them, teaching them. I think I know a thing or two.

Yet, I get met with these statements. Time to time, it pops out like a sneaky ninja in a conversation.  “You’ll understand when you have kids…” It feels like, “You might have studied about kids, gotten a degree, babysat, lived with kids, and taught kids-but you don’t understand them or know how it feels to love them.

Yet, how can I argue this? I DON’T have kids, it’s true. There is nothing I can say to argue the validity of this statement. I just wish my knowledge and opinion was taken more to heart than to be dismissed as invalid because my “mommy creds” aren’t cashed in the form of my own kids.

I feel like this post might be circular and I am chasing the point around. I need honest insight, who can provide this to me? Take your shot below. I bid you farewell for now. Toodleloo…



4 thoughts on ““You Don’t Understand…”

  1. You know i thought the same thing. Ppl told me the same thing. I hve 3 nieces, was a kg teacher. Worked at a daycare. Pretty much all ages. But when i had my own. I kinda understood what they were talking about. But doesn’t really make you any different


  2. I understand. People’s comments, although not meant to be insulting at all, can burn to the bone. Hubby & I had trouble conceiving before we were blessed with our first. Listening to my young friends complain about pregnancy, saying thing like “Oh you just wait”…. Yeah, got it, it feels like all I’m doing is waiting. Trust me, these comments will continue to hurt but all you can do is remember them for when your little one arrives! It is different when you have your own but I’m sure you are fully expecting that!


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